Dear Annie: I’ve been dating a guy for six years, always at a distance. I loved this man with all my heart. The problem is, we haven’t met each other’s families. He has never met my kids and doesn’t even want to. He will not recognize our relationship on his social media profiles. His parents don’t know anything about me. We don’t have holidays or birthdays together. We don’t go on dates. The last time we saw each other in person was two years ago. He barely texts me. There is always an excuse as to why he is not available. Yet he claims he loves me. I just don’t understand. I want to leave, but I care so much about him. What do I do? – Mixed signals
Dear mixed: This man looks more like a pen pal than a boyfriend (and not a very good pen pal, anyway). You deserve to be with someone who wants to see you often, vacation together, introduce their family to you and meet your kids – in short, someone who wants to be with you. You will never meet him if you are too busy looking at your phone while waiting to hear from this guy. Break it, stat.
Dear Annie: We have periodic night visits with my sister-in-law, “Lindsay”, and her boyfriend, “Luis”, who live out of state. We would visit them at their homes or host them at our house if there was a family event. We both love them and they are both lovely people to hang out with except for this issue we are having.
When we get together, we usually spend our evenings watching TV or movies together. Every time, as soon as we sit down and start a movie, Luis starts falling asleep and snoring – really loud. Lindsay is going to wake him up. He’s going to stop for a minute. And then, shortly after, he starts snoring again. It lasts all night and really ruins the evening. My husband is sitting there very pissed off all the time. Finally, I say I’m tired and go to bed early. We suggested he go to bed, but he just says he’s awake now and then the snoring cycle starts again.
Do you have any suggestions on how we can handle this situation? – I can’t hear the movie
Dear can’t: Try to start the movies earlier in the night and leave some lights on. If the snooze fest continues, give them a sweet wake-up call about it – something friendly but straightforward, such as, “We love hanging out with you, but your snoring makes it hard to listen to the movie.” bed when you are sleepy? ”Also, recommend that she talk to her doctor about testing for sleep apnea. Sleep apnea can cause snoring and, because it prevents people from getting a full night’s sleep, chronic fatigue.
Dear Annie: We have been invited to spend the day with old friends. I thought it would be a nice gesture to bring a bottle of wine. He’s the one they didn’t know.
We got to their house, and I gave them the wine. But it was never opened in our presence. I was disappointed. I couldn’t wait to share a drink with them.
Is it a common courtesy to open or at least offer a glass of wine when you have brought it to share? Or is it a gift we shouldn’t have any right to? – Mouth watering in Idaho
Dear still stop the water: When you bring a bottle of wine to a friend’s house, traditional etiquette dictates that it be a host / hostess gift to enjoy whenever they want. The next time a bottle catches your interest, buy an extra one to enjoy at home later.
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